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Boomer Radio Show Interview: Learning About the Influencer Behavior Style

A few Sunday’s ago (9/26/10) I appeared on the Straight Talk segment of the Boomer Nation Radio Show (WGUL 860 AM) to discuss Influencer Behavior Styles and in specific how to “recognize” people who exhibit this style. In the discussion I mentioned that there are 3 keys to look for on observing behavior styles. Those keys include:

  • Identifying Behavioral Descriptors – For the Influencer Behavior Style those descriptors are; talkative, friendly, gregarious, out-going
  • Identifying 3 Behavioral Indicators
    • Is the style Extroverted or Introverted? Dominant Styles are Extroverted
    • Is the style People-Oriented or Task-Oriented? Dominant Styles are People-Oriented
    • Is the style Direct or Indirect? Dominant Styles are Indirect
  • How does the style deal with Change, Risk & Conflict? Influencer styles oblivious to change, they are moderate risk takers and their response to conflict is to run

To listed to the Straight Talk segment here: http://tinyurl.com/2fmnky6

In the upcoming weeks, we’re going to cover two more behavior styles and then, how to effectively communicate with each. So whether you’re in sales, management, team-environment, dealing with changing environment, you’ll know how best to deal with each – both introspectively as well as when you’re dealing with others.

Stay tuned!

Steve


Boomer Nation Radio Show Interview: Learning About the Dominant Behavior Style

A few Sunday’s ago (9/19/10) I appeared on the Straight Talk segment of the Boomer Nation Radio Show (WGUL 860 AM) to discuss Dominant Behavior Styles and in specific how to “recognize” people who exhibit this style. In the discussion I mentioned that there are 3 keys to look for on observing behavior styles. Those keys include:

  • Identifying Behavioral Descriptors – For the Dominant Behavior Style those descriptors are; Aggressive, forceful, decisive, direct
  • Identifying 3 Behavioral Indicators
    • Is the style Extroverted or Introverted? Dominant Styles are Extroverted
    • Is the style People-Oriented or Task-Oriented? Dominant Styles are Task-Oriented
    • Is the style Direct or Indirect? Dominant Styles are Direct
  • How does the style deal with Change, Risk & Conflict? Dominant styles love and embrace change, they are high risk takers and their response to conflict is to fight

To listed to the Straight Talk segment here: http://tinyurl.com/2934vkk

In the upcoming weeks, we’re going to cover three more behavior styles and then, how to effectively communicate with each. So whether you’re in sales, management, team-environment, dealing with changing environment, you’ll know how best to deal with each – both introspectively as well as when you’re dealing with others.

Stay tuned!

Steve


The Three Elements of Communication – Words, Tone & Body Language

As you all know the main thrust of my work focuses on empowering people to master the art of effective communication. With that said, effective communication runs the gamut from both the verbal and non-verbal. To help you understand the extent of what those consist of I wanted to share an excellent article about the percent breakout of “the words we use, out tone and lastly our body language.”

I’ve included information from an article on the website called Ecademy called The Three Elements of Communication – and the so Called “7%-38%-55% Rule, by Mark Lee. See the website here: http://tinyurl.com/22tweoz. I’ve copied and pasted the article below for you as well.

I hope you enjoy!

Steve

The Three Elements of Communication – and the so Called “7%-38%-55% Rule, by Mark Lee.

You’ve probably come across this ‘rule’ on a communication seminar or course somewhere. I’ve heard it repeated many, many times. More recently I learned that it is commonly quoted OUT OF CONTEXT such that wrong conclusions are drawn and taught. I thought it would be helpful to share the related clarification more widely.

The original research to which everyone refers was undertaken in 1971 by Albert Mehrabian (currently Professor Emeritus of Psychology, UCLA).

Mehrabian reached two conclusions:

1 – There are basically three elements in any face-to-face communication:
• words
• tone of voice and
• body language.

2 – These three elements account differently for the meaning of the message:
- Words account for 7%
- Tone of voice accounts for 38% and
- Body language accounts for 55% of the message.

It seems that many people who quote Mehrabian’s research seem unaware that this second conclusion was NOT a general observation relevant to all communications.

Mehrabian reached this second conclusion in the context of experiments dealing with communications of feelings and attitudes (i.e., like-dislike). Thus the often quoted disproportionate influence of tone of voice and body language is only really true when someone says they like/dislike something/someone but their tone of voice or body language implies the opposite. Commonly this will mean that two or more of the three elements are ambiguous. Such ambiguity appears mostly when the words spoken are inconsistent with the tone of voice or body language of the speaker.

This would be the case for example when someone says “I do not have a problem with you!” whilst at the same time their closed body language says the opposite and they avoid eye-contact and sound anxious.

In such situations Mehrabian’s research showed that the receiver of the communication will accept the predominant form of communication, the non-verbal (38% + 55%), rather than the literal meaning of the words (7%).

Let’s face it – that conclusion IN CONTEXT is not really a surprise is it?

On his website Mehrabian specifically states: “Please note that this and other equations regarding relative importance of verbal and nonverbal messages were derived from experiments dealing with communications of feelings and attitudes (i.e., like-dislike). Unless a communicator is talking about their feelings or attitudes, these equations are not applicable.”

My view, despite this clarification, is that it’s important to be congruent when we communicate. That is, our body language and tone of voice should be consistent with the words we use. Otherwise we can confuse people and reduce the prospect of getting our message across so that it is understood. We have to take responsibility ourselves for any failure to communicate effectively. It’s OUR fault and not the fault of our listeners.

The words we choose to use ARE generally more important than is often assumed. Certainly, when making a presentation we need to pay just as much attention to the words we say as we do to the way in which we will present them – how we will move and the variations in our tone of voice.

This is good news as most people will spend far more time working out WHAT they are going to say. than rehearsing HOW they are going to say it and HOW they will move when they are talking.

Perhaps one reason why Mehrabian’s research is quoted so often though is that body language and tone of voice are evidently important aspects of communication. And in the absence of any other validated research we have to quote Mehrabian to make the point – even if we do so out of context. Such quotes are generally effective though – maybe because of the tone of voice the speaker uses and their body language when they tell us about the “7%-38%-55% Rule”.


Effective Communication Skills Tip #10 – Generation Y (Communicate Openly)

Communicate openly:

Trust is built through open and effective communication. Open means a back-and-forth conversation rather than a monologue, and effective means communicating in the manner and style of the person with whom you’re speaking. With the combination of openness and effectiveness you’ll be able to build the foundation for trust, and ultimately an effective relationship.

Hope you find the information insightful.

Steve


Effective Communication Skills Tip #9 – Generation Y (Observe & Adapt)

Observe and adapt to behavior:

Working with Gen Y requires heightened awareness, which is a skill you can use when interacting with anyone and simply means observing others’ behavior and adapting accordingly. If you are highly talkative and they’re not, don’t overwhelm them with your extroverted approach. If they are risk averse and fear change then nurture their willingness to take risk or deal with change rather than forcing them into change.

Hope you find the information insightful.

Steve



Effective Communication Skills Tip #8 – Generation Y (Listen & Ask Questions)

Listen and ask questions:

The best way to understand another person is to ask questions and truly listen to their answers. The key is to ask sincere questions, those that get the other person talking. Don’t ask closed questions that can be answered with a “yes” or a “no,” but questions that require thoughtful responses. Then be quiet and listen; you’ll be surprised by what you learn.

Hope you find the information insightful.

Steve


Effective Communication Skills Tip #7 – Generation Y (Show Empathy)

Take the initiative and show empathy:

Walking in someone’s shoes always helps to establish trust, because when you see things from their perspective you’re showing that you value them. Take the initiative and try and understand them. Then you’ll understand why they do what they do, as well as set an example to be followed.

Hope you find the information insightful.

Steve


Effective Communication Skills Tip #6 – Generation Y (Building Trust)

Establish and build trust:

This step is an important one for everyone you interact with, not just Gen Y. It is the foundational element of any successful relationship, and the success of your relationships is tied directly to the breadth and depth of trust established. Be true to your word, keep your promises and do what you say you will.  Focus on these to build and maintain trust.

Hope you find the information insightful.

Steve


The Reach Out Approach Interview on Selling Books.com

A few weeks back I was asked to participate in an interview regarding the publishing of my book The Reach Out Approach: A Communication Process for Initiating, Developing & Leveraging Mutually Rewarding Relationships.

To read the entire interview, just click in this link: http://tinyurl.com/2452uas

I hope you enjoy.

Steve


Effective Communication Skills Tip #5 – Close the Communication Gap

Close the Communication Gap:

Once your styles are in synch the dialogue will open up; as you adapt to the other person they will feel comfortable and open up. Communication styles don’t always clash, but when they do the faster you can adapt to their style the sooner connection can happen and real communication can begin.

Hope you find the information insightful.

Steve


 
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